Held by Hope

FAQ

Chances are, if you have a question, someone else has asked us before. Here are many common questions that come up as people are on the search for perfect doula to fit their needs. Have a FAQ that you don’t see listed here? Head on over to our contact page and let us know how else we can help you!

  • Birth Support
  • Lactation Counseling
  • Postpartum Assistance
"How will you advocate for me and empower me?"

It is important that your voice be heard, so we will never speak for you. Instead, we can help you communicate your questions and wishes to your care provider in a respectful way. We can point out when something arises that deviates from your birth preferences. Usually, there is time to talk more about if this is the way you would like to go.

"Will you support my choice to receive or not to receive pain medication?"

The choices you make for your birth are always your choice. We can give you information ahead of time about some of the risks and benefits of a particular intervention. There are many reasons a person may choose to use medication or an intervention, and there is never judgement for that personal choice.

"My husband feels like he doesn't want to want to be replaced. Do I still need a doula?"

A lot of our role is to also support the birth partner. This means offering them breaks to eat or sleep and the comfort of knowing the laboring mother will never be left on her own. Your partner knows you best and can offer the most loving support in ways that we cannot. We can help your partner remember all of that birth jargon, make space for them to advocate for the birthing mother, and help find that sweet spot to press on so that they get all of the credit for a well supported birth. Postpartum we help the partner find ways of supporting the mother as she nurses, but also find ways to be close with and bond with the baby. We can take care of household duties so that the focus can be on the baby and the new family, rather than other menial tasks.

"When can I expect you to join me in labor?"

We always desire to stay connected with our clients throughout their pregnancy, and beyond. We are on call for you 24/7 starting at 38 weeks leading up to the birth and we are always happy to support you in person or over the phone. As your birthing time approaches, we like to be kept very up to date about any signs of labor. We will continue supporting you over the phone or text (potentially with an in person visit) until things are becoming more regular and getting closer together. Once one of us joins you as you approach active labor, you will have our support until your baby is born.

"I'm having a planned cesarean. How could you support me?"

There is still advocacy that can happen in a planned cesarean-- perhaps you would like to ask to see your baby be born, have your hands unrestricted, hold your baby skin to skin, or nurse your baby in the OR. These are all things we could talk about prenatally, or in the moment if an unexpected cesarean arises.

"Why work with a doula partnership, rather than an individual practice?"

There are many benefits to having both myself and Natalia on your birth team. First, you will receive support from two seasoned birth doula's, each bringing their expertise to the table. You will receive support from a Childbirth Educator and Placenta Encapsulator, as well as a Postpartum Doula and Lactation Counselor. We each have special strengths to draw from. Secondly, you always know both of us well, so that no matter what happens you always can feel comfortable if either one of us attends your birth. We offer a similar style so that our care can be consistent. Thirdly, we deliver a high quality professional service-- we are commited to delivering some of the highest quality care in our area. Finally, because we work as a team, you can know that whoever attends your birth will be well rested and ready to fully invest in supporting your birth process.

"My nipples are sore, is this normal?"

Sore, cracked nipples can sometimes be an indicator of a poor latch or other potential factors that should not go overlooked. Hope can help you recognize the signs of a well latched baby, and refer you on to more help as needed. Sometimes it just takes some minor adjustments to get baby latched and feeding more effectively, and in the long run helping those sore, cracked nipples find relief and healing.

"How can I tell if my baby is getting enough milk?"

Hope can help you watch for signs that your baby is effectively transferring milk at each feeding. She can also help you find other ways of confirming that your baby is on track-- such as through output. She may also refer you to an IBCLC when you need additional support to be sure your baby is on track.

"I'm not sure what I need help with yet, can you help me?"

I tailor all of my care to each individual family. Postpartum care looks very different for everyone, and I am happy to meet you right where you are on your journey through parenthood. I usually ask families to make a prioritized list of things they need help with, and I will help them with as many of those things as I can in my time with them.

"What is your level of experience with breastfeeding support?"

I am trained as a CLC (a Certified Lactation Counselor)'and can guide you as baby gets latched on, help with positioning, and information about nursing and pumping, and resources. I may also refer on when there are more complicated feeding issues, to ensure you get all of the support you need.

"What happens if I give birth earlier or later than expected, or if you get called to a birth during one of our scheduled sessions?"

I try to always leave enough room so that I can re-arrange my schedule and be available to you whenever you need me postpartum. I make every effort to agree on a schedule that works for both of us, and reschedule with you if absolutely necessary because of a birth. I always work with a back up doula, so in the event that there is a day that you really need help and I am unavailable (which is very rare), my back up would be available to you.

"What type of parenting style/baby sleep methods do you teach?"

My major focus in the early days is helping you bond and attach with your baby. I do not sleep train your baby while I work with you. I can offer you various evidence based information about some different options for helping your baby get sleep so that you can too, or about different parenting styles. I will never push you to choose one way or another but rather help you feel supported and ask questions as you find your own way.